Most of us don’t pay attention to what we’re thinking, most of the time. This is one of the main reasons why “positive thinking” rarely works. We spend a few minutes each day wishing for a relationship or money or a job but the rest of the time, our minds may be churning out thoughts like, “I’ll never make any money,” or “I don’t deserve love” or “you can’t make a living at something unless it makes you miserable.”
Our constant stream of unmonitored thoughts drown out our wishes and affirmations.
Even if we managed to constantly think, “I deserve love,” or “I am grateful for an abundance of money,” deeply rooted thoughts – the stuff we’ve been holding onto since childhood – don’t go away. Instead of replacing those thoughts, we are simply layering new thoughts on top.
Deep-rooted thoughts trump our wishes and affirmations.
Through practiced meditation and mindfulness, we can learn to observe our thoughts. Such observation leads to the dissolution of harmful thoughts and the cultivation of more positive ones.
If we have particularly stubborn “self-sabotaging” thoughts (as evidenced by self-sabotaging behavior or sometimes, depression) we may want to seek professional counsel and do work that specifically excavates hidden beliefs. I recommend “free writing” and also, for dealing with a difficult emotion as it’s happening, the “Three Minute Breathing Space.” I once did this “breathing space” while pitching an absolute fit over trying to fix some plumbing. What I uncovered amazed me. I had, just beneath the surface of consciousness, a looping message of my dad berating me! No wonder my reaction to the problem at hand seemed inappropriate. I was actually reacting, emotionally, to childhood drama and had no idea!
Our true self may be very different than the self we believe we are.
Meditation and mindfulness cause our “true selves” to float to the surface.
Our Egos may not like our true selves. This is especially true if your true self is “radical” in any way. Your Ego will try to kill your true self, in the name of “rationality” or logic.
The way around the Ego is not to fight it but to observe it, through meditation and mindfulness.
Our true selves are always trying to shine through. We can wish ourselves to be an accountant all we want but if our true self is a painter, we’re always going to have that urge to paint.
When our thoughts about our life are in alignment with who we really are – underneath the preconceptions – then, we are sending out clear signals about what we wish to create. This is when manifestation seems magical.
Sometimes, our true self is so different from our assumptions, or our upbringing, or what society has told us we should be, that we have trouble recognizing it. We are too close to it. Or, we are just looking at one piece of the full picture. Do you know what this is?
It’s the side of this…
Sometimes, we need an outside perspective to help us to see the big picture, to understand what we are.
Once we recognize our true selves, if our Ego resists, we simply apply meditation and mindfulness! (It’s simple but not easy, I know.)
Astrology helped me to see the full picture. As this video explains, different approaches work for different people. Your true self will point the way that’s right for you.
Jen, I will say for the one-thousandth time how incredibly grateful I am that you found this life path for yourself, and that our paths crossed again! I have benefited so much from your healing conversations! I am re-reading my notes from yesterday and they are so right on, so inspiring, so positive and helpful. THANK YOU! - Kim Jastremski
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Manifestation, Positive Thinking, and Self-Sabotage: What I’ve Discovered So Far
1. The conditions of our life are the result of our thoughts about our life.
Most of us don’t pay attention to what we’re thinking, most of the time. This is one of the main reasons why “positive thinking” rarely works. We spend a few minutes each day wishing for a relationship or money or a job but the rest of the time, our minds may be churning out thoughts like, “I’ll never make any money,” or “I don’t deserve love” or “you can’t make a living at something unless it makes you miserable.”
Our constant stream of unmonitored thoughts drown out our wishes and affirmations.
Even if we managed to constantly think, “I deserve love,” or “I am grateful for an abundance of money,” deeply rooted thoughts – the stuff we’ve been holding onto since childhood – don’t go away. Instead of replacing those thoughts, we are simply layering new thoughts on top.
Deep-rooted thoughts trump our wishes and affirmations.
Through practiced meditation and mindfulness, we can learn to observe our thoughts. Such observation leads to the dissolution of harmful thoughts and the cultivation of more positive ones.
If we have particularly stubborn “self-sabotaging” thoughts (as evidenced by self-sabotaging behavior or sometimes, depression) we may want to seek professional counsel and do work that specifically excavates hidden beliefs. I recommend “free writing” and also, for dealing with a difficult emotion as it’s happening, the “Three Minute Breathing Space.” I once did this “breathing space” while pitching an absolute fit over trying to fix some plumbing. What I uncovered amazed me. I had, just beneath the surface of consciousness, a looping message of my dad berating me! No wonder my reaction to the problem at hand seemed inappropriate. I was actually reacting, emotionally, to childhood drama and had no idea!
2. We all came into this life with a specific purpose. This is the “true self.”
Our true self may be very different than the self we believe we are.
Meditation and mindfulness cause our “true selves” to float to the surface.
Our Egos may not like our true selves. This is especially true if your true self is “radical” in any way. Your Ego will try to kill your true self, in the name of “rationality” or logic.
The way around the Ego is not to fight it but to observe it, through meditation and mindfulness.
Our true selves are always trying to shine through. We can wish ourselves to be an accountant all we want but if our true self is a painter, we’re always going to have that urge to paint.
When our thoughts about our life are in alignment with who we really are – underneath the preconceptions – then, we are sending out clear signals about what we wish to create. This is when manifestation seems magical.
Sometimes, our true self is so different from our assumptions, or our upbringing, or what society has told us we should be, that we have trouble recognizing it. We are too close to it. Or, we are just looking at one piece of the full picture. Do you know what this is?
It’s the side of this…
Once we recognize our true selves, if our Ego resists, we simply apply meditation and mindfulness! (It’s simple but not easy, I know.)
Astrology helped me to see the full picture. As this video explains, different approaches work for different people. Your true self will point the way that’s right for you.