Be a Love Magnet (Ask Sherrie Monthly Column)

It’s the first Sunday of the month, which means it’s time for Sherrie Dillard‘s monthly column answering your questions about intuition. This month, Sherrie answers questions from two FemCentral readers about emotional intuition.

• I feel that I have Emotional Intuition. I am a Medical Assistant and work in a hospital on a Neurology/Neurosurgery floor for 18 years at the front desk and and helping patients. These days more desk than patient care and I am the one person everyone comes to for venting or complaints about whatever and I get asked to help just for whatever. As soon as I enter the floor, I really feel pressure. No one I work with gets along and everyone seems unsure about what they are doing (not good for taking care of people). Nothing is ever directed at me, but I feel a great deal of nausea at all the negativity. They say they feel calm when around me or talking to me, but I feel it is a bit overwhelming sometimes, but I still want to help. Do you have any tips on some quick form of regrouping/relaxing for me?

• I’ve been told by friends, coaches, and even personality tests that I’m a strong empath or have a lot of empathy. What is empathy and how can I put it into use to be of service to customers or coaching clients? P.S. People open up to me because I somehow make them feel at ease. I don’t know how I do it. Is this empathy?

Thank you for the questions. It sounds like you are both emotional intuitives. An empath is someone who usually without being aware of it, absorbs and intuits the emotional energy of others. I have defined this innate predisposition as emotional intuition, which is the ability to intuit the emotional energy of others and the environment and also includes other intuitive characteristics and qualities. Like the both of you, emotional intuitives have an inner desire and drive to help, heal and be of service to others and the world. They are likely to choose professions where they can fulfill their soul purpose of expressing unconditional love and positive healing energy.

The soul of the emotional intuitive is interconnected to universal love and therefore can be a tremendous force of healing. Unfortunately many emotional intuitives are challenged in the ways that you both describe. Because we, as a society, do not for the most part acknowledge our intuitive nature, we are at risk of using it in ways that are not only ineffective but can also be detrimental to one’s wellbeing and health. When you are in a constant intuitive receiving mode, absorbing the emotional energy of others can leave you feeling tired, negative, anxious and stressed.

As attractive as it may seem, it does not work to try to shut down your intuition or overly protect yourself from the emotional energy of others. While it is important to become aware of when you are soaking in the negative and stressful emotions of others, if your soul drive is to heal and be of service you will without knowing it eventually open and again become emotionally overwhelmed.

Instead of absorbing the emotional energy of others, the better use of your natural intuition is to connect with the higher realms of unconditional love and compassion and then emit and send this love out to others. Love can flow into your heart from the most pure source of all love and then into your environment, healing and uplifting others.  For this to happen naturally in the work place or among people who are in pain or suffering it is necessary to practice, practice, practice, so that it becomes effortless and innate.

Here are a few ways to shift the energy flow and take care of your sensitive intuitive nature.

• Practice being a Conduit for Love. Find a place where you can be undisturbed for several minutes. Get comfortable, close your eyes and breathe. Imagine breathing in cleansing breaths then slowly exhale and relax. With each relaxing breath, imagine your heart opening and inhale love energy from the most pure source you can imagine. For you this may be God, the divine, a higher power, whatever and however you conceive of love in a universal pure way, image yourself as its channel. Fill yourself with this love and exhale it through your heart. Continue breathing in love and exhaling it through the heart. As you exhale imagine that you are sending love to who will most benefit from it.

• Do not close down or overly protect yourself from others pain and suffering. Your soul drive is to heal and give to others and as you learn how to better do this, you will experience more happiness and peace of mind. Recognize when you are feeling others pain or absorbing the negativity of the environment.  Pause, open your heart to love and breathe in the most pure love you can imagine. Know that you are doing powerful work and that love is coming into the world through your. Feel this love flowing from your heart to all those who need it. Detach from any outcomes or expectations.

• Take a few minutes, in the morning or before work and pause, take a few deep breaths, feel love flowing into your being, exhale and open your heart. State your intent for the day. You can say  something like:  “The pure source of love flows through me to all who need it” or “The power of love moves through me and I am safe and protected”

• During your day when you are in the presence of someone who you intuit is in pain or suffering or if your environment is negative and draining, acknowledge it, breathe, inhale love and send it out into the environment. Ask for a greater love to flow through you.

Practicing these simple exercises will strengthen your intuition, your connection to others and because likes attract likes, magnetize love to you. You will also become quite popular as just being in your love energy will be a balm of comfort and serenity for so many.

(Similar exercises can be found in my books,  Discover Your Psychic Type and Love and Intuition.)

Do you have a question for Sherrie? Submit questions by

1 – replying to this post, or

2 – emailing me at jennifer@jenniferlshelton.com with “Ask Sherrie” as the subject.

Also, Sherrie has requested that if your question is specific to your situation (instead of a more general question on intuition), that you provide your birthdate. Feel free to email or reply at any time, whenever a thought comes to you. This a monthly column, so keep the questions coming!